Roller Coaster

Woke up this morning with a text from my ex.  It was asking if I was ever going to tell him my plans for moving or if I was just going to take the boys and see if he would do anything.  I texted back saying that yes, I wanted to sit down with him and work out the details.

I went to pick up the boys from his house today and we had a very civil conversation.  I was actually very pleased at how we interacted with each other.  Of course, it wasn't about the move.  But he was in the Army back in the day, so he totally understands the whole no communication and separation thing and he also knows that things can change very quickly with the Army.

Anyway, about an hour and a half later, he calls me.  He demands to know if I got paperwork from child support and that now he definitely isn't going to let me take the boys.  Meanwhile, I have no idea what he is yelling at me about, even though he keeps telling me that I've been lying to him about it.  Apparently, he got some paperwork (I don't know when, because today is Sunday and he definitely didn't get it on a day when there isn't mail delivery!!) from child support telling him that he owes over $10,000 for back child support.  I have not received any paperwork from child support, so I really honestly don't know what he is talking about yet.  He is ticked though.  But I sure wouldn't mind getting that $10,000!  LOL

So, after he was done yelling at me, he hung up on me without letting me say anything.  He called ME.  Then he hung up on me?  That is just dumb.  So I called him back.  I said a few things trying to get through to him, then he hung up on me again.  We did this a few times.  I think the total number of calls was 4.  Then the texting started.  He texted me several times telling me how I'm going to go to jail if I take the boys and how I had better "fix" this -- what he wants me to fix, I'm not sure.  I have not responded to any of his texts.  Actually just about half an hour ago he sent me another one saying "so now what?" which made me laugh.

But things are going to be ok. . . the only thing I'm worried about is my time restraints. . .

My soldier called me tonight.  Previously I had told him that I was going to steal him away and take him to the courthouse right there near his base and marry him.  Well, tonight he asked me if I was serious about it.  :)  I told him yes.  He said, ok then, you need to bring all of this documentation.  YES!!  I am pretty sure this means I'll be married on Thursday!!  AHHHHHHHHHH!!!  I'm so excited I could do the happy dance right now.

Not only do I want to marry him immediately because, well, because I want to! but also because once I'm a military wife, we'll get more money and I'll be able to obtain a lawyer through the Army.  This will help me with my problems with my ex.

One thing though, my soldier still insists that he goes to his post first and I follow later one.  This would be ok, but I'm running out of money.  I won't be able to pay my rent and bills here much longer.  But it would be good for me to stay because if I have to get caught up in the court system here with my ex, then I'd be here to take care of it all.  Sooo, I'm not sure how this is going to work.  But if he goes in for more training, then the Army will pay BAH to me and that will help me with my bills. . . but if he isn't in training and he is just living on base, then I'll get nothing.  Things are still up in the air, but I'm feeling a bit more positive and waaaaay super excited about getting married!!  <3