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Tuesday, April 27, 2010

New Chapter

With 20 minutes until my boys' bedtime, I'm going to attempt to blog.

Today was full of goodbyes and hellos.  I spoke to my boss again today.  He was very upfront with me and told me that my other boss had made up his mind and was unwilling to budge on his decision.  I no longer have a job.  I talked to my boss for quite awhile because we have a pretty good relationship.  He genuinely cares about his employees.  I could tell he was upset by this whole thing, which made me feel better about it.  He asked me all kinds of questions to make sure that I'm ok and that I will be ok.  We said our goodbyes and I cried.  Yeah, I'm terrible at goodbyes.

But it is ok.  I'll be fine.  I would have been leaving my job soon anyway to move and be with my soldier.

I got my fiancee's orders for his duty station today!  Fort Hood.  Before anyone asks, yes, that was where the shooting happened.  And before your minds start whirling, let me just remind you that it was a person who was dangerous, NOT the place.  So, I'm very excited.  I've never been to Texas before and I've heard great things about Austin TX, which is about 1 hour south of Fort Hood (I think).  It'll take some getting used to for me, new place, new weather (I'm a Florida girl here!  Anything below 70 I think is cold!  LOL).  I'll definitely have to go shopping for some warmer clothes.

It feels soooo good to finally have a little direction.  Up until now, everything has been up in the air.  Now at least I have a destination and I can start looking for jobs and housing there!  I'm so excited!  And I've also been talking to some girls online who will also be stationed there.  Look at me!  I'm networking already!  :)

Ok, gotta get the young'uns into bed and then bed early for me too because they both have dental appointments very early tomorrow morning!

Monday, April 26, 2010

Cowards

Alarmist, baby, caitiff, chicken heart, chicken liver, chicken, craven, cur, dastard, deserter, faint-of-heart, faintheart, fraidy-cat, funk, gutless, invertebrate, jellyfish, lily liver, malingerer, mouse, pessimist, poltroon, quitter, rabbit, recreant, scaredy cat, shirk, shirker, skulker, sneak, weakling, white liver, wimp, yellow belly, yellow.

What do all of these words refer to?  A coward of course.

Do we all know at least one coward?  Yes.  Are some worse than others?  Yes.

What has brought on this vocabulary lesson you might ask?  Well, it is brought on by my encounter with a HUGE coward recently.  In fact, he is such a coward, that it was brought on indirectly because he did not have enough courage to tell me the facts straight to my face.

If you have been following, you already know that I'm on an extended "vacation" from work.  I had every intention of going in for a meeting next Tuesday to sit down with both of my bosses and discuss when and how I would come back to work.  However, apparently, a decision has already been made, but neither of my bosses could be bothered to call me and let me know.  I had to find out from a friend and co-worker, or should I say former co-worker now.

I have to say, after putting 2 1/2 years into this establishment, I'm very disappointed in the way they have handled this situation.  First off, there was no good reason to be suspended, especially since I've been there long enough and seen people do things that they should have definitely been suspended for, but never were.  Second, communication with me from the boss who actually handles the front end employees (not the boss who suspended me) came a little too late -- two days after the incident.  Third, they can't even communicate their decision to me themselves!!

I'm very angry and a bit flabbergasted at the moment, so I'd better just stop writing right now because it is already rambling and I'm not sure if you will even be able to understand it.  I'll try writing again when I've calmed down a bit.

Sunday, April 25, 2010

Take the Good with the Bad

Every single time I have things really going for me in my life, something happens to ruin my good feelings.

Today is a good example.  Had a great start to the day.  Went to the gym, had a great workout.  Came home and lifted a few weights and did a few pushups.  Felt great!  Showered, then got a pedicure and shopped for a few love cards for my soldier.  Then I went to a manditory seminar to claim my vacation that I won.  The seminar wasn't bad at all.  The presenter had a good sense of humor and finished the presentation 30 minutes early.  Afterwards, I was given a certificate for $50 towards gas, the forms to fill out when I choose which vacation I want to have, PLUS an additional 3 day 2 night vacation getaway!  I was very pleased with the outcome.  And I didn't sign up for any club memberships.  I didn't have to buy any timeshares.  It was great.  I sat.  I listened.  I took my paperwork for the vacations.  I left.  Simple!

On my way home, I swung by to pick up my kids at their father's house.  This was fine too.  We chatted and whatnot.  Just as I was getting ready to leave, I reminded him that I'll be gone next weekend and that I'd bring the boys' clothes over Thursday afternoon.  This was when he decided to tell me that he can't take the boys.  I gave the man three weeks notice.  THREE WEEKS. And he told me he could take them.  Now all of a sudden he can't.  This is coming from a man who doesn't work. . . just the odd job here and there, and he never sees the kids.  He will occasionally take them for a few hours on Sundays, but that's it.

Needless to say, I was furious.  He told me he needed to work to pay his bills that he is really far behind on.  I politely reminded him that he quit his last job and that was why he couldn't pay his bills.  He walked away from me.

So, I left.  Fuming.  My mind was racing with how I was going to force him to take the boys, or find someone else to watch them while I travel to GA.  He texted me while I was driving home telling me how he wasn't going to let me talk down to him anymore (I didn't!  I didn't even say a single nasty word to the man!) and how he is sorry that having kids gets in the way of me having a life but that he can't take them.  He also proceeded to remind me that I put myself in this predicament because I chose to leave him and this wasn't what he wanted.

It has been one and a half years since I left this man.  He is still hung up on it.

Anyway, I contacted the few friends I have that might possibly be able to watch my boys for an entire weekend straight, but they all already had plans.  I texted my ex back a few times telling him that he HAD to take the boys, that my plans had already been made, and that I'm leaving Friday morning with him being responsible for picking them up Friday afternoon after school.  He never responded.

So, this is what is happening.  I'm an intelligent and resourceful young woman.  I'm giving my mom an all expense paid trip from upstate NY to FL for the weekend!!  I'm flying her down, she'll spend the weekend with the boys, and she'll fly back home when I get back.  I'll stock the fridge with food and leave her my car filled with gas.  I ran the idea past her this evening and she is in.  :)

GA here I come!!

Saturday, April 24, 2010

Stream of Consciousness

I got a letter today. . . inside of a card.  I'm elated!  This past week has been really really hard on me because I'm missing my soldier so much.  I think of him constantly on a normal day.  But these past several days, I'm on the verge of being obsessive. 

Where are we going to live?  Is he actually going into the reserves, or is he going straight into active duty?  If he is going active, I know all of the steps I need to follow for health insurance, getting my military ID, applying for housing, etc etc etc.  If he is going into the reserves, I have no idea what applies to me and my family.  If he is going active, is there a chance he could get stationed overseas?  I'd love to live overseas for awhile!  Will he get sent to a combat zone?  A safe zone?  Alaska?  Hawaii?  Will he have time for us?

Will I be able to handle it if after we are married, we get pregnant, and he gets called away for a year?  Will I be able to handle going through a pregnancy AND a birth without my husband?  Will he have a chance to know his child?

How long will he be in the service?  Will I like it?  Will I fit in with all of the other Army Wives?  I hope so.  But I know I can come off as a bitch a lot of times, maybe they won't like me.  Will I be able to find a job?  What kind of jobs will be offered where I'm going to live?  Can I get a job with the Army?  Am I up to the task of making my soldier look good in his superiors' eyes?  Absolutely!

Will my children adjust to him as a step father?  Will they accept his authority?  Will they love him?  He already loves them.  Will my ex put up a fight when I try to move with the kids?  Will they be traumatized by moving away from their father?  Am I going to hurt them by doing this?  I don't think so.  They are resilient.

All of this plus TONS more has been streaming through my head non-stop.  I guess I will have answers to some of these questions in time, but I don't like waiting!  I really need to work on my patience.  I'm an instant gratification sort of girl.

Friday, April 23, 2010

Do a little research please

Went to the gym this morning -- WOOHOO!!  I've been such a slacker in that department.  But I'm not too happy with the squishyness my thighs and butt have obtained. . . so, off I went.  While I was there, I was watching Dr. Phil on the tv in front of me (because my MP3 player died!) and was horrified by what I saw.  The show was about Muslim kids being bullied in school.  One of these kids fought back and was prosecuted for doing so.  These poor kids are dealing with being called "terrorists" all the time and being made fun of and being left out simply because of their religion.  It is disgusting.  I will be marrying into a Muslim family very soon and I just don't understand why American people have such a bad impression of Muslims.  I'm wondering if any of them have actually bothered to try finding out what the religion is about?  I mean seriously.  How much do people actually know about the religion of Islam besides what they hear on the news?  How much do YOU know about it?

I can tell you that I did a lot of research on the subject.  I think I've read just about every single book on the topic in the library plus did multiple searches online and absorbed as much information as I could.  I learned about everything from the history of the religion to the cultural differences to the languages used to the stereotypes of common day.  I can honestly tell you that if you actually took the time to learn a little before judging, you'd probably wouldn't.  Islam teaches peace and understanding and above all ACCEPTANCE of other religions and other people.  Perhaps we could learn a little from them?  Just because there are a few bad apples, doesn't mean that EVERY Muslim is a horrible person.  The same could be said about all religions but would it be tolerated if something like that was said of Catholocism?  How about if I said that all Jewish people were bad people based on the actions of a few?

Really people.  The United States of America is a melting pot.  You need to accept this.  We as a people are mixed.  We have mixed skin color.  We have mixed religions.  We have mixed ethnicities.  It is what makes us who we are.  Why do we have to be so cruel to each other?  All I'm asking is that you do a little research before coming to any conclusions.  You are all allowed your own opinion, but don't form your opinions based on what everyone else is saying.  Get the info, decide for yourself.

Ok, I'm stepping off my soapbox for now.  :)

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Mish Mash

Had a long talk with my mom today.  It was nice.  I really enjoyed being able to talk to her even though it was on a subject I knew she probably wouldn't approve of (me quitting my job).  But she didn't judge me.  She made valid points, and if she did any judging, it was silently.  Thank you for that Mom!

Finally made it to the beach today too!  WooHoo!  I've been on vacation for a few days now and today was my first day there!  I was careful this time though.  Last time I went to the beach (Easter Sunday), I burnt myself silly.  I'm not exaggerating.  I burnt my body (which wasn't really that bad), I burnt my EYELIDS and I burnt the INSIDES of my ears.  Yes, I am that talented.  :)

This time I only stayed for an hour and I flipped at the appropriate time.

Oh yeah, about my vacation.  It has been extended a bit, but I have not quit, nor am I in any more trouble than I already was.  I was finally able to talk to my boss (the other one) today.  He suggested that I don't come back to work on Monday because I'm just leaving again on Friday and have Tuesday off.  So, instead of coming in for 3 days, he suggested to me that I come in and talk to both him and his business partner when I return from Fort Benning.  I agreed.  So I get another week of vacation!  And just when I was getting sad about this almost being over!!  I probably shouldn't be happy about this, but I really can't tell you how long it has been since I've actually had time to myself.  I'm loving it.  I need it.

And after this news about my vacation extension, I made dinner.  I made cheesesteak sandwiches for dinner and corn on the cob.  Now, it is just myself and my two little boys living here.  My two boys are extremely fussy eaters.  They both ate this!!!  My oldest even had seconds!!  Anyone who knows my children knows that this is a MIRACLE!!  I'm so elated.  I've finally found another food that they will eat besides chicken nuggets and  pizza. 

I feel like there was much more I wanted to share today, but it just isn't coming to me.  If I remember, I'll post again later.

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Mission Accomplished

Today's mission: hit the mall and buy pretty dresses and pretty bras/panties.

I started the morning off as usual.  Dragging myself out of bed at 6:30 to get the kiddos off to school.  As soon as I dropped them off, I crawled back into bed.

I woke with a start.  I had a feeling of dread, like I was supposed to be somewhere.  Oh yeah, work!  Nope, not today I told myself.  What a great feeling!

After battling with myself over whether to go to the mall or to the beach, I finally made a decision.  I need new dresses and undergarments.

So, I made it to the mall where I proceeded to try on every single summery dress in every single store.  I found two that I liked.  Which is probably a good thing considering if I had found more, I would have spent a fortune.

Then I went to Victoria's Secret.  I got measured and found out I've been wearing the wrong size bra for some time now.  Which is a relief!  Now I can actually buy bras that fit!  The woman was extremely friendly and helpful.  And the mirror in the changing room said "STRIP" which I found very amusing.  I wound up getting 2 very nice convertable bras (because I like to wear strapless dresses in the summertime) and 4 pairs of panties that are supposedly not supposed to show under your clothes.  We will see.

On my way home there were signs along the road that said "State Prisoners at Work."  Why do they put these signs up?  Is it to let people know that if they take one of the guys out, it is ok because they are hardened criminals?  Is it to humiliate the prisoners?  Is it to make the drivers scared that they are traveling amongst criminals?  I mean really?  Can't the signs just say "Men at Work" just like all of the other signs?

Oh yes!  I almost forgot to mention the highlight of my day!  I picked my boys up at the YMCA today.  My youngest was complaining that something was in his shoe and hurting his foot.  So, I had him hop into his seat in the car and I stripped off his shoe.  Then I saw that his sock was full of dirt and branches and stuff too, so I pulled it off and --- BAM!  There was this BRIGHT PINK foot staring at me!!  I screamed.  My son screamed.  And my other son standing, waiting to get in the car screamed.  It was a very funny moment.  You had to be there.

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

I'm a winner!!

I usually don't answer the phone when I don't know who it is calling.  But tonight I made an exception.  I'm not really sure why.  Perhaps because I was secretly hoping that it was my fiancee calling from someone else's phone.  Anyway, I answered a call tonight not knowing who it was.

It was NOT my fiancee.  It was a lady named Joanie.

I had filled out a little slip of paper at a local festival two weekends ago.  Turns out, I won a vacation!  A real one!  Not the suspension that I'm calling a vacation.  I have my choice of a Carribbean cruise, a trip to Las Vegas, or a family vacation of any destination I choose.

Of course, there is a catch.  I do not have to purchase a time share or join any clubs.  I do have to sit through a 90 minute presentation.  I think I can handle this.  If I really do get the free trip, I can handle 90 minutes of boredom!  Especially since I have so much free time on my hands these days, what with not working and such!

I do believe my life is taking a turn.  First I get sent on my "vacation" for a week.  Then a real vacation falls in my lap.  What's next??  Oh!  Maybe my man will get stationed in some foreign country where we can take the whole family and learn a whole new culture and language!!  Oh man, that would be great!  Ok, I'm getting a little too excited here.  I'd better stop.  I'll write more tomorrow.

Lonely

Evenings and nights are the hardest.

This is the time of day when I really start to miss my man.  It is like this wave of lonelyness comes crashing down on me, no matter what I do to try to stop it.  I try to keep busy.  I help my son with his homework.  I make sure my youngest son leaves my older one alone.  I serve dinner, clean up dinner, give baths, watch movies.  Nothing seems to help.  Sadness overwhelms me almost every single night.

I long to be in his arms again.  I ache to snuggle up in bed with my head on his chest while we watch youtube videos together.  I'd give anything just to be in the same room as him.

It won't be much longer now, but it has already been an eternity.

Army Trivia

Holy Moly!!  Ok, so my fiancee is at Fort Benning going through basic training and AIT.  I haven't laid eyes on him since Valentine's Day.  Needless to say, I miss him terribly.

But I've been networking on Facebook.  I mean, really, what's a girl supposed to do while waiting for her man to get out??  Fort Benning does this trivia every Tuesday at exactly 2pm.  They ask a question and the first person to answer correctly gets to have photos taken of their group of choice.  Then Fort Benning posts the photos for all to see.

Today was my first time playing.  I was on Fort Benning's page, refreshing away, waiting for the question to be asked.  In another window I had Google open and waiting.  The question flashes.  I speedily type in the question and see the answer in Google.  I type as fast as I can (and I'm a pretty darn good typist!) into the comment box and refresh.  What???  I'm like waaaaaaay behind everyone else!  There are a good 60 posts in front of mine!

Oh well, there is always next Tuesday with a chance to see photos of my honey.  But my heart is racing now!  Who knew that a simple trivia question would turn out to be a good cardio workout!  And now that my heart rate is up, I think I'll go do a little wii fit.

Vacation!

Hi everyone!  Since this is my first post on this blog, I feel I should probably give you a little background info on myself.  However, I'm not going to yet.  I'll do that little by little throughout my blogs.

Today is day 1 of my vacation.  Well, I'm calling it my vacation, but actually I've been suspended from work for one week because my boss was having a rough day apparently and he was on a bit of a power trip.  But I'm all good with it.  I work in a restaurant and if any of you have ever done such a job, you know that you can get burnt out.  I'm at that stage.  So a week away from the place sounds like heaven right about now!

I have big plans!  I've already hit AAA today for my TripTik to GA (I leave April 30th!) to see my fiancee at Fort Benning.  For the rest of the day I think I'll do some exercise and hit the mall.  I need some pretty dresses for my reunion with my future hubby!

I know this is a pretty lame first posting, but I promise it will get better.  But for now, I'm going to go work on my profile and then get my stuff done before my kids get out of school.  I'll post again soon.